Only a mother can host a birthday party this special


As the month of May came along, one could not stop thinking about Brenda’s birthday and the luncheon her mother, Carol, will hold in her honor in June.

The invitation is usually limited to six and the hope is to be included. Sometimes, it is a phone call or email alerting those invited to the date and time of the event.

A simple “yes” triggers a beautiful handwritten invite. Lunch is always at 11:30 a.m. at a lovely restaurant with a preset table and a mimosa at every place setting.

The hostess kindly suggests a cup of she-crab soup along with the lunch everyone chooses to order.

Where else would you rather be on a beautiful Saturday in June than lunching with dear friends and having pleasant conversation?

Mother Carol artfully leads by asking and encouraging those who wish to have coffee or tea and ensuring everyone’s lunch is to their satisfaction.

We decide to bestow our presents and cards on Brenda.

One of us is astute enough to bring a hostess gift to Carol, something we all need to remember to do next year.

After lunch, we drive to Mother Carol’s house where husband Marty has ensured the candles are lit, the soft music is playing as we walk into the beautifully decorated home they share along with their delightful cats.

Everyone gravitates to the garden in the backyard where Carol’s green thumb always has some beautiful new flowers and plants on display.

Everything is spotless, trimmed and glowing. The screened porch makes you wish you could stay for the sunset dinner overlooking the flowing pond out back.

We linger at the fresh herb garden and tomatoes growing and wishing we could set up the same space at our own homes. Soon, we go to the sunroom where Brenda receives several gifts from her mother. We then move to the dining room table set with sterling silver, tablecloth and fresh linen napkins.

Carol always offers tea, coffee or lemonade.

What fine homemade cake will she offer this year? It is a chocolate cake with seven-minute frosting! One of my favorites.

We sing “Happy Birthday” to Brenda. Carol also offers orange brownies. All diets are thrown out the window as we devour the brownies and cake with ice cream.

The conversation continues, but then the afternoon must end. We are all given a gift basket filled with soaps, lotions, note cards, scented candles and, best of all, a box of Carol’s homemade white and milk chocolate mint chocolates. I feel like I am celebrating my own birthday.

What makes this day so special? My friend, Brenda, is looking at 60 and we are too polite to reveal Mother Carol’s age.

Sufficient it to say that those attending either no longer have their mothers or dementia has set in for the mothers still living.

Who wouldn’t enjoy a lovely birthday party given by your mother?

Tina Doscher and her husband, Ricky, live in West Ashley with their Lab, Stono. She sits on the board of directors for Heritage Trust Federal Credit Union, Respite Care of Charleston and Joint Base Charleston Community Advisory Board.