Ramey Reeves, Hanahan mother with "unshakable faith," dies at 33 from cancer

By Andrew Lyons
Wednesday, July 9, 2008



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Doctors diagnosed Ramey Reeves three months ago with a brain tumor. She found loyalty in family and friends, yet faced loneliness in her affliction. Her faith would be tested like never before.

Doctors diagnosed Ramey Reeves three months ago with a brain tumor. She found loyalty in family and friends, yet faced loneliness in her affliction. Her faith would be tested like never before.

A spunky sense of style. An amazing singing voice. An endless supply of friends. A heart for God.

This made up Ramey Reeves, a Hanahan mother whose life was defined by her faith but cut short by brain cancer.

Reeves died this afternoon at the Hospice Center in Mount Pleasant, five weeks after doctors removed a rapidly growing second tumor. The 33-year-old leaves behind her son Judah, 7, and her husband John, a sergeant with the Charleston Police Department. Her mother, father and sister, along with other relatives and dozens of friends, stayed beside her during her final days, talking to her, singing Christian praise songs, decorating her room and painting her toenails.

A story about Reeves' life after being diagnosed with a brain tumor and her faith was featured in March on the front page of The Post and Courier. It was titled "An Unshakable Faith." While thousands of people each year learn they have a brain tumor, Reeves was diagnosed with one of the most formidable.

Doctors told Reeves in January she had an anaplastic astrocytoma tumor, and on March 20 a neurosurgeon at Duke University Hospital removed the mass but was concerned cells from the tumor had reached other parts of her brain.

But before she could begin follow-up treatment, a second tumor already had formed in her brain and grew faster and larger than the first. The tumor swelled and caused seizures and severe pain, prompting doctors at Medical University Hospital to conduct emergency surgery June 4. Although they removed the second mass, the damage the tumor inflicted on her brain, coupled with the trauma of a second surgery, forced Reeves into a deep sleep from which she never fully awoke.

Raised in Lynchburg, Va., Reeves attended Liberty University where she met her husband and later moved to Charleston when he took a job with the Police Department. In recent years, she was the lead singer in the worship band and greeted visitors at The Crossover church on Savannah Highway.

"She made people feel like they were family, like they were her best friend," said Sean Nelson, pastor of The Crossover. "I don't care what lady you talk to, every single one of them will say: 'That was my best friend.' "

Outside church, Ramey gave away CDs of her singing, dropped by friends' homes to chat and hardly ever missed an opportunity to talk to strangers about her faith. She had her own sense of dress, constantly changing the color of her hair and scanning the clothes aisles of Marshalls on a weekly basis for something new.

Throughout her life, Reeves developed a vast network of friends. In the days following her first surgery, friends put up a blog called www.prayforramey.com where daily updates on her struggle and notes of encouragement are posted. The total number of visits to the blog has reached 76,000 and donations to help the Reeves family has climbed to nearly $15,000.

People loved Reeves because in her, they saw God's love, said Bethany Miller, one of her closest friends and who visited her almost every day for the past five months.

"I am not the kind of witness (for God) that she was, but I will be," Miller said. "I want to serve others the way that she served others. And when I see her again, I want her to say to me: 'Good job, girl. I missed you.' "

Funeral Service for Ramey Reeves

WHEN: Saturday at 11 a.m.

WHERE: James Island Christian Church - 12 Sawgrass Rd, Charleston, SC 29412

MORE: The service will be followed by Ramey's burial. Guests will then return to James Island Christian Church for a meal and a time to remember and celebrate her life. More information will be posted later in the week at www.prayforramey.com.

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easytiger (anonymous) says...

ramey was one of the brightest lights in this world. to know her was to love her....there are few words to describe someone as amazing & as special as she was.

she will be missed. her family is in our prayers.

July 9, 2008 at 5:11 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

ccfirefighterchick (anonymous) says...

Rest peacefully, Ramey! Enjoy the glories that we on Earth can only imagine.

July 9, 2008 at 5:25 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

browneyedgirl (anonymous) says...

To know Ramey, was to know the love of our Savior. She exuded Him everywhere she went. This article does not glorify her; it's truly who she was and how she lived. She made you feel as if you were her favorite person. She lived unselfishly. She walked out her faith. If I can make half the impact she's made on this earth, then I've done a great thing. She has changed my life forever. I love her deeply and will miss her immensely. God Bless John, Judah, and her family as they heal from their loss.

July 9, 2008 at 5:49 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

sfarris (anonymous) says...

I remember the story about this beautiful woman. With her crossing over to her own piece of heaven she leaves us her deep inspiration in the form of her own service to Christ as a reminder of our own desire to be a better example of faith and hope for all to follow! God be with her family and friends as they mourn her earthly loss.

July 9, 2008 at 6:45 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

BigAl (anonymous) says...

Dear John your grandmother called my mother around 2 this afternoon and informed her of Ramey's passing..my heart goes out to you and your son and your parents John & Carol and Ramey's parents and all the extended family..friends and those who cared for her. I will not pretend to know what to say..for I do not. I have never suffered such a loss and can only imagine how you feel. In one sense there is no death..the life of a soul on earth lasts beyond her departure. You will always feel that life touching yours..that voice speaking to you.. that spirit looking out of others eyes..talking to you in the familiar things she touched..worked with..loved as familiar friends. She lives on in your life and in the lives of all others that knew her.
You are in our thoughts and prayers

Bruce Alvord
Columbus NJ

July 9, 2008 at 6:48 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

walleyedwoman1215 (anonymous) says...

This just breaks my heart. John and Judah, may you find consolation in loving memories of an amazing woman who never ceased to praise God.

July 9, 2008 at 7:25 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

STREETLAW (anonymous) says...

Please talk to my Mom for me Ramey. She died of brain cancer decades ago. She knows what you've been through.

God bless John, Judah and all the rest of her family and friends.

Let's all support research on non-invasive treatment of this cruel malady.

There has to be a better way.

July 9, 2008 at 7:37 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

christinader (anonymous) says...

Ramey--loved by many. Changed so many lives.

July 9, 2008 at 10:01 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

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